Our look for who we are is sustained by our inherent desire to attain a sense of approval and belonging. Belonging doesn’t simply occur; it includes lots of elements and experiences in order to feel that you truly belong. Feeling a sense of inclusion can enhance our identity and relationships and can lead to acceptance and understanding.
In order to understand who we are we need to belong and this is successfully represented in Raimond Gaita’s narrative ‘Romulus My Father,’ Shaun Tan’s ‘The Lost Thing’ and JD Salinger’s ‘The Catcher in the Rye. A person’s interaction with others and the world around them can enrich or restrict their experience of belonging to an environment. ‘Romulus My Father’ demonstrates this through the extensive sense of approval that exists within Raimond. He provides his observations in a reflective and thoughtful tone, particularly in his recollections of his daddy, as he “enjoyed him too deeply … no quarrel could separate (them)” and felt an authentic sense of familial belonging. This is likewise obvious even after Christine dies.
He observed, “We came together as kid and hubby with the lady whose remains lay beneath us.” Juxtaposed against Raimond’s belonging is the suffering of Christine in her displacement. Christine struggles to be the mother that society expects her to be, and her failure to relate and conform is described by Raimond as, “a distressed city lady, she might not settle … in a landscape that highlighted her isolation.” Raimond’s despondent tone communicates how Christine might not fit into the community and in Australia.
As an outcome, her seclusion and alienation lead her to betray the organization of household juxtaposed by “I felt awkward with her,” which shows that Raimond’s relationship with his mother has actually lost the familial belonging it as soon as consisted of. Similar to Christine’s feelings of estrangement, Romulus “seemed like a ‘prisoner’ in Australia,” that was looked down upon and undesirable, resulting in a supportive reaction from the reader. Throughout the unique, we witness Romulus dealing with and struggling with these opposing pressures.
Feelings of estrangement and an inability to just ‘suit’ are similarly checked out in Shaun Tan’s “The Lost Thing”. Tan explores the attitude and bitterness towards things that do not belong, and the intricacies of a world that straight shows society and its inability to accept differences. The basic need to belong can consequently result in many changing themselves in order to conform to social expectations. Feeling a sense of belonging and approval involves facing lots of pressures and troubles, which are clearly shown by Tan.
The Lost Thing is mainly neglected and barely noticed by the neighborhood, despite its bright red colour and large look that makes it stand apart to the reader as it is juxtaposed with the dull and developed background. However, regardless of it curious look and apparent presence, the community is self-absorbed, too preoccupied with their routine practices to even observe it. Towards completion of the book, it ends up being clear that there are lots of other lost things that regularly appear in the city, but their existence can just be determined by the minimal level to which they are discovered.
This demonstrates the lack of confidences directed towards people or things that do not stereotypically harmonize the rest of society. Tan likewise checks out the sense of belonging produced in such a detached environment. The residents of the organised community establish a sense of identity by complying with the guideline of society and following the organised standardizations, as demonstrated through the returning motif of the identical homes drawn in cool columns. Eventually for them to be accepted, they leave out others.
Attaining a sense of ‘belonging’ can function as a supporting force for notions of identity, bringing fulfillment and enrichment of character and this is plainly shown throughout JD Salinger’s unique ‘The Catcher in the Rye,’ through the lead character nature of Holden Caulfield. Holden seems to be left out from and victimized by the world around him. As he mentions to his teacher Mr. Spencer, he feels trapped on “the opposite” of life, and he constantly attempts to discover his way in a world in which he feels he does not belong.
Part of Holden’s alienation is an outcome of his inability, or maybe aversion to mature. Holden is afraid of their adult years, declaring that their adult years is world of superficiality and “phonies.” We are continuously reminded of Holden’s war against “phonies”, ironically assessing Holden’s phoney and fake personality. Like a child, Holden fears change and is overwhelmed by the complexity, but he is too out of touch with his feelings to confess. Rather, he spends much of his time criticizing others. When are you going to mature?” Carl Luce makes it obvious to Holden that he must grow up and carry on from his issues which are holding him back. In the conclusion of his journey, Holden is able to acquire a sense of belonging and acceptance within his sibling Phoebe. Although losing his brother Allie was extremely hard, Holden finds comfort in his close relationship with his sibling and has the ability to proceed willingly. The feeling of acceptance involves many aspects and experiences.
The innate desire to belong and ramifications of not belonging are plainly represented within ‘Romulus my Daddy’. The struggles of belonging in the self-absorbed orderly society of ‘The Lost Thing’ clearly demonstrate our basic requirement to be accepted. JD Salinger has the ability to prove that a sense of belonging comes from a sense of identity within ‘The Catcher in the Rye.’ Belonging can enrich our identity and relationships and can lead to acceptance and understanding.